Long distance relationships (LDR) aren’t necessarily the easy road to take when choosing your partner, but when you’re with the right someone, they’re 100% worth it.

In fact, when I tell people that my husband works away for half the year and people ask me how I do it! But I can confidently say that although it’s not easy, it totally works for us.

Because really, every relationship has hard parts and being in the same location all the time also comes with challenges that aren’t as prominent for long-distance couples.

With a lil’ bit of creativity and commitment (and a gadget or two) long distance partnerships can be incredibly rewarding. Finding ways to feel most connected, even when apart, can strengthen your bond and make the distance feel shorter.

Unique long-distance relationship activities

Whenever I would search ideas for long distance relationships, many articles say the same things and although some of the usual suspects also make this list,  I’ve tried to include unique long-distance date night ideas too.

Most of these are activities that we’ve *actually* tried and tested, resulting in some memorable moments together even when we’re living temporarily apart.

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34 activities for couples in a long-distance relationship to help stay connected and keep the romance alive

1. Watch a Movie or TV Show Together

Streaming services make this super easy these days. You can take it in turns choosing a movie using a platform that allows synchronised viewing, like Netflix Party or even using a streaming chat like Discord.

Lock in a virtual movie night, pop some popcorn and you’ll forget you’re in different locations (well, maybe).

2. Online Games

Multiplayer online games are a great way to fire up some friendly competition and break up the monotony when you’re apart. Whether it’s a strategy game, a cooperative adventure, or a simple mobile game like the ones in FB Messenger, playing together can be a fun way to bond.

My brother introduced us to JackBox Games which have so many games that had me in stitches when we played them – highly recommend!

3. Video Call Date

Give your regular phone calls a glow up and schedule a time for regular video calls so you can see each other’s faces and talk about your day. Face to face conversations are one of the best ways for couples to connect with meaning.

Video chats allow for non-verbal communication like body language and enhances communication between a couple. You could even go all out and make it easy special by dressing up, ordering some Uber Eats and making it (well, as much as you can) like a real date.

4. Start a Book Club

Start a book club for just the two of you, or join one together that works with your partners time-zone or work schedule.  A standard format for book clubs is to read a new book per month then discuss it together at the end. But you could figure out a template that works for you and your partners commitments/FIFO swing.

Books are a great talking point and powerful for building imagination and anticipation. You could even get a bit saucy and throw some fantasy-smut or an erotic novel or two in there (#iykyk).

5. Send Surprise Gifts

This isn’t always going to be practical (like, ahem, when your husband works in the middle of the ocean on a boat) but there are still little ways you can surprise and delight each other with gifts.

It could be something small like Uber Eats to their door, a book (for your book club!), or even a sweet LDR quote written in a text message. A small random act of kindness goes a long way in showing that you’re thinking of each other.

8. Star Gaze

If you’re in the same time zone, tee up a time when you can look at the night sky together. Use a stargazing app (we use SkyView Lite – it has a free version) to point out constellations or checking out the International Space Station when it does a flyover.

9. Exercise Together

They say couples who train together, stay together! Sync up over over a video chat and motivate each other to find 30 in your day. You could do the same workout routine on an app like Kic App.

Or if you have access to gym equipment you could even make the most of your nightly phone call and go for a stroll or run together while you chat. Working out together helps you to stay accountable and process the event’s of the day.

10. Question Cards

Take turns asking each other fun or deep questions for a interesting long-distance date idea. You can find questions for free online (like the list below) or purchase a set of conversation starter cards.

There are some really fun versions out there perfect for virtual date nights like the Normal Sync Set cards – which give your more of a sensual edge to explore.

Question prompt cards are helpful especially for long term relationships.  when perhaps you feel like you already know everything there is to know about one another. Conversation starter cards will act to spark meaningful discussions and deepen your emotional connection, even across time zones.

39 Questions for long-distance couples to spark deeper conversations and connection

 

Questions about childhood
  • What was your favourite show as a kid?
  • Did you have a favourite book in childhood?
  • What was your first ever CD/song purchase?
  • What did you love the most about your childhood?
  • What was your favourite dish/food from childhood?
  • What movie could you watch over and over again?
  • What was your bedroom like as a kid?
  • Who was your first kiss?
  • Which celebrity did you always have a crush on?
  • What advice would you give your younger self?
Questions about future plans
  • Where is somewhere you’ve always wanted to travel?
  • Do you see yourself ever changing careers?
  • Where do you picture yourself settling down in the future?
  • What are the things you most look forward to each day?
  • What are your markers for defining a successful life?
  • Is there any cause/organisation you’ve always wanted to volunteer with?
  • If there were no risks or fears, what would you pursue in life?
  • What do you want your life to be like five years from now?
  • What would you do if you won a million dollars?
  • What do you wish you had more time for?
Fun conversation starter questions
  • What is your go-to karaoke song?
  • What’s a question you’re dying to be asked?
  • When do you think I look the sexiest?
  • What’s something expensive that you think is worth every cent?
  • What board game would you love to play together?
  • Who would play us in a movie about our relationship?
  • If you could have any super power, what would it be?
  • Which cartoon character do you most identify with and why?
  • What is something small that really makes your day?
Questions to spark deeper conversations about your relationship
  • How do I make you feel most loved?
  • What do you most enjoy about being in a relationship?
  • What’s your favourite trait of mine that you hope I never lose?
  • Describe our perfect date
  • When do you feel the most connected to me?
  • What do you enjoy the most about our sex life?
  • What is one of your favourite memories of us together?
  • When was the last time you complimented me to someone else and what was it?
  • What is something that instantly reminds you of me?
  • What is something different you’d be keen to try in the bedroom together?

11. Plan Future Holidays

Plan your next holiday together. Whether it’s your reunion or travel together somewhere, there’s so many aspects of your vacation you can get planning when you’re apart.

From deciding where you want to go, activities you want to do, and things you want to experience as a couple or family. Plus it gives you something amazing to look forward to, to get you through the more challenging times with your long-distance partner.

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12. Create a Shared Playlist

Make a playlist of songs that remind you of each other. You can add all your milestone tunes like your first dance, wedding songs or the ones they love to belt out with the kids in the car.

Listen to your songs when you miss your partner or want to feel close to them. Song lyrics also make cute text messages to send to one another when you don’t necessarily have words but want to convey all the feels to your partner.

13. Write Letters to Each Other

Go old school and write love letters to each other. Again, not always the most practical depending where in the world you are from one another. If you’re FIFO,  most work sites in Australia have postal services and you can investigate whether this is practical in your situation.

There’s something incredibly romantic about receiving a handwritten letter from your significant other. Love letters always remind me of old-world romance stories (The Notebook anyone?). Sigh.

14. Take An Online Class

If you’ve been meaning to learn a new language or skill, online classes are a fun way to upskill together.

Whether it’s a language, cooking, or a new hobby, learning something new together can be a fun bonding experience ad way to spend some quality time together.

15. Photo Sharing

Share photos through photos via an app or digital photo frame and enjoy the daily trip down memory lane. Create a shared album through a smartphone app use where you both upload pictures regularly and can have them play through your photo frame at home or work.

Our kids love our SkyLight Frame. They will literally park themselves in front of the frame to watch it flick through the album. It’s always fun to see what photos pop up on the frame and it’s a wonderful way for them to get a glimpse of where Dad works, too!

16. Meditation

Practice meditation together through a video call. The Kic App and Insight Timer has a library full of meditations that you can choose from.

It doesn’t have to be something too long, even 5 minutes together to centre yourselves in your day and help coregulate can be incredibly restorative.

17. Online Shopping

Schedule a virtual shopping date in different cities. Next time you need to buy new clothes, or maybe you can take each other ‘shopping’. Modern technology makes this easier – you can screen share through video calls or just use a video chat and browse in real time together.

You could even choose something special for each other and then feel all warm and fuzzy when you enjoy them together next time IRL.

18. Paint Each Other’s Portrait

I’ve seen this trend on socials and it looks like an an activity that would translate perfectly to online for long-distance couples (i.e. perfect for virtual dates).

Book in a video date with some art supplies like paper or a canvas and paints. Make sure your partner can’t see you work in progress and then unveil your masterpiece to each other at the end. LOL’s guaranteed.

19. Send Care Packages

Put together a care package for a special occasion or ‘just because’. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture – it could be filled with your partners favourite snacks and small gifts (the conversation starter cards would go great here!) A handwritten note is always a nice personal touch too. Receiving gifts is my love language so this is right up my alley, but I guarantee it will bring a big smile to your partner’s face no matter their love language.

20. Play Digital Board Games

If video games aren’t your thing – why not opt for classic board game instead? Just about every classic game has an online version or app. Chess, Scrabble, and Monopoly are just a few examples.

I’m still trying to get my hubby on the Words With Friends bandwagon… watch this space.

21. Write a Relationship Bucket List Together

What do you want to achieve as a couple? In the hustle and bustle of daily routines at home, there isn’t a lot of time to talk about bigger things future plans or mutual goals.

Writing a list of things you hope to accomplish together in life can initiate new conversations and help connect you on an even deeper level.

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22. Listen to Podcasts

Find a podcast that interests both of you and listen to them throughout the day. Come together in phone calls or texts to discuss each episode and share your thoughts. My husband and I do this a lot when he’s away.

I love listening to podcasts when I’m preparing dinner or folding the laundry. They help me feel less alone in the day-to-day of raising kids and give us lots to talk about when there isn’t often much new to discuss. We both really enjoy true crime series like Who The Hell is Hamish and Serial.

23. Plan a Surprise Visit

If you haven’t been surprised by your long distance partner then I highly recommend you make it happen (if you can!)

My husband has totally shocked me me a couple of times coming home when I didn’t expect it, and it’s just the BEST.

Many mining companies also allow families site visits at certain times of the year. Get in touch with your employer to find out if you can make it happen.

24. Cook Together

Online cooking dates are one of the more creative ways of spending time together when you’re in an ldr.

Take it in turns to choose a recipe, take a trip to the grocery store to pick up your ingredients and then hop on a video call, pour a wine and cook together. The upside to this is that you can then sit down to enjoy your meal together – awwww.

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25. Enjoy a Virtual Reality Date

VR headsets are an excellent way of enjoying a shared experience, even when you’re not in the same room!

Take a tour together, listen to live music, ride a rollercoaster or try a number of fun activities available through the world of virtual reality.

26. Relax With a Bubble Bath

Stick your smartphone or table to you bathroom wall and run yourself a bath with your partner.

Bubble baths are incredibly relaxing and adding soothing elements like Epsom Salts boosts the healing benefits of soaking in the tub.

A nice, warm bath can help ease stress and calm your nervous system. Being in a long distance relationship can be a source of said stress- so why not de-stress with your far away significant other?

27. Send a Voice Message

If you’re looking to mix up the usual texts and phone calls, surprise your loved one with a little voice message instead.

I love using the Voxer App – which is like a walkie talkie for voice messaging and texting. This means you can listen in real time as someone records a voice memo or press play later on when it suits (and on repeat too!)

28. Join a Music League

Music League is a smartphone app that blends music discovery and creative competition. Discover new music, share your favourite songs, and play against your friends and family.

The premise for the game is that you anonymously submit a song to tie into the theme of each round. The app links to your Spotify to create a playlist from all submissions and you get to vote for your favourite songs or the ones than nail the theme brief.

You can also set up rules for each league – like the ability to also place down votes on deserving songs. Create your own league to get in on the fun with your friends and fam or choose to join a public league together instead.

29. Send a Flower Posy

As cliche as it is, sending flowers to your loved one is such a lovely way to commemorate a special occasion, birthday or anniversary. A bouquet or posy is a good idea for a gift when you aren’t sure what to get and don’t necessarily want to add to more ‘stuff’.

There are some awesome flower delivery businesses that offer same day delivery too. Perth peeps – check out Blomster and Baker or The Flower Run.

30. get intimate in the bedroom

Keeping the romance alive for long distance couples has never been easier thanks to modern technology.

If you’re yet to invest in some sexy ‘equipment’ for your ldr, it’s time to get on board! There are a huge range of adult toys and vibrators (for all genders too!) that can be controlled remotely by your partner when they’re away.

This is something that not only helps you connect on a sensual level but brings a bit of fun back into your physical relationship even when you might be in different time zones!

31. Send Daily Memes

It’s so important to find things that make you laugh and bring some joy into each day, especially when you’re missing your partner. Most of the messenger convos between my husband and I are full of funny Instagram reels and memes.

Get your daily LOL with a meme to sum up how your day is going. If you wanted to flex your creativity you can customise your own memes. Online platforms like Canva or a meme generator make this super easy. Unleash your inner comedian and let the good times roll!

32. Create a Vision Board Together

Vision boards are good for visualising goals and staying motivated by keeping your aspirations front and centre.

Making a shared vision board works brilliantly in conjunction with defining your relationship bucket list and helps in manifesting your couple- centred goals.  You can include smaller, short term goals as well as more lofty, long term visions for your love story.

A shared board using an online platform like Pinterest makes this easy to coordinate from a distance. Or upload pictures into a shared online folder to turn into a physical poster or screensaver for your laptop.

Placing your vision board somewhere that you’ll see it most often helps to consciously and subconsciously reinforce what you are aspiring to achieve, together.

33. Wine or Gin Tasting

Wine tasting was made for long distance dating! There are companies that make this a piece of cake to coordinate with their at-home wine tasting kits.

You could order one each or set things up so your partner can take it with them when you next part. If you find a drop that you love, it would also make a sentimental gift to create future special moments, too.

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34. Make a crossword for your partner

I’m a sucker for a crossword puzzle and if you’re like me – I can vouch for this as a fun activity (even if I had to force my hubby to do it!) 

Crosswords are actually so good for working out ‘brain muscles’ – enhancing vocabulary, and improving problem-solving skills by challenging memory and critical thinking.

Add your personal touch by creating a crossword for your partner to enjoy.  This is made easy with online programs like Crossword Labs. Design your own clues and watch as it generates your very own personalised crossword puzzle.

Creativity is key with long distance relationship activities

Long-distance relationships, especially those involving FIFO (Fly-In Fly-Out) couples, come with unique challenges and constraints.

Depending on where your partner is working, some activities may not be suitable—like enjoying a virtual toast with wine tasting if they’re at a dry site… Sometimes you just have to think outside the box to make it work.

In any case, I hope this list has provided you with a some inspo to try something new next time your partner is away!

Whether you’re planning a long-distance date night or exploring unique ways to stay close, these long-distance relationship activities can help you feel close even when physical distance is keeping you apart.

If you are in a FIFO or long-distance relationship, what are your go-to long distance date ideas? Let me know in the comments below. Bonus points if it’s something that isn’t on the list!

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